This is a good question, and something I have been contemplating recently.
The words “make” & “control” are strong words that I believe are inherently setting up a fundamental misunderstanding in terms of causality. “Make” and “control” and “create” need to be differentiated in a greater context.
A better way of stating the YCYOR is perhaps You Choose Your Own Reality…from an infinite number of realities. “Choose” is a better synonym to “create” rather than “make/control” when it comes to examining interactions among people.
For example, you choose your friends and family, and you choose their likely probable reactions from an infinite number of possible reactions, based on your current emotional vibrational makeup. In one probable reality the person reacts negatively in another probable reality the person reacts positively. Which of those realities you personally “create”/experience is contingent on your personal creative power when it comes to creating your own personal emotional matrix which then actualizes the probable reality in accordance with said matrix. Be it the negative or positive reaction one.
You create experience through choice, the issue is you don’t realize how many possible optional realities exist to choose from! You create relationships through choice, you teach people how to treat you, or more accurately how you treat yourself. The universe reflects back to you what you are often creating un/subconciously with a great degree of precision. It may seem like other people are “doing” things to you, or you to them, that however while you still need to deal with that on a practical level, is rather superficial to what’s really going on underneath.
YCYOR is true in the absolute sense at the most fundamental level, when it comes to probable reality choosing… it however is not really true at the superficial ego/only looking at physical reality level where the mechanics are slightly different.
You choose to experience the planet and all its people in a given way based on your own personal inclinations. The idea of making/controlling others simply does not fit in with that kind of deeper understanding. Choice at a deeper level of your being precludes anything your ego in physical reality may try to “control” from it’s relatively speaking powerless position.